Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling
Close the gap between you and your partner
Love relationships are one of the biggest investments we make in life. When our relationship experiences distress, the pain this creates is hard to tolerate. Couples tend to find themselves in the same old ‘dance’. We all have ways of relating that leave us vulnerable to conflict, blame, defensiveness, and distance.
As partners play this dance out, again and again, it creates distress in the relationship. One partner ‘pursuing’ for connection and resolution. Then, the other partner starts ‘withdrawing’ to reduce the tension and avoid further conflict.
During a relationship, this dance becomes its own source of pain. Partners become protective and critical, shut down and inaccessible. Maybe you fight about the same issues over and over. You could feel frustrated by the different ways you each deal with emotions. Perhaps, you find yourselves struggling to repair a relationship injury. Or, you simply want to feel more connected.
We work with couples who identify themselves as being in a committed relationship. We work with couples who are dating, cohabitating, getting ready for the next level of commitment, newlyweds, couples with children, and those who have been married for some time. Wherever you are in your relationship journey, we want to help you create a close connection you can trust and rely upon.
Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Feel Connected, Open, and Accessible
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is proven to create lasting change in adult love relationships. It is an evidence-based, well-researched model of healing. This kind of therapy offers a tried-and-tested map for emotional intimacy, repair, and connection.
Most often, we work with couples to identify and calm their well-worn dance. Then we go below this pattern, to start talking about the hurts, needs, and longings that have been the real issues. Can you be there for me when I need you? Do I matter to you? Will you respond to my pain when I am hurting?
Couples are supported to talk more openly and vulnerably about what they need from each other, especially in their moments of need.
Where there have been fractures in trust or security, we can support you to repair these hurts and rebuild emotional security.
Our therapists are skilled and trained in this model and work with couples in committed relationships, those considering marriage, and married couples. We are proud to work with all family structures and lifestyles.
Your Relationship Dance
Build Connection and Security
Deal with anything that comes your way
Couples leave the therapeutic process feeling clear about what can trigger a destructive dance between them. Increased emotional connection and security allows couples to reach for each other with more openness, softness, and vulnerability.
Couples in committed relationships and married couples can all benefit from therapy. Each partner feels more equipped to show up in the relationship with greater emotional responsiveness and accessibility. Specifically, how to respond to the needs of their loved one. Also, how to give them what they need. And, when needed, support them in times of hurt, fear, or pain.
Then, when there is a ‘miss’ or conflict, couples have a new way of relating, one that allows for full repair and resolution as things arise. This safe-base allows both partners to deal with stress more effectively, take risks to be more fully themselves, and experience a feeling of wholeness.
Create lasting ways of relating that make your relationship feel like your favorite place to be. Your port in a storm and place of refuge in times of need.